Here is my credo for the Feisty and Non-compliant.
Tell me what you are planning.
Tell me why.
If it's not worth your time and attention to explain everything to me, I will not comply.
And if I don't agree with your plans after you have explained them, I will not comply.
I will only exercise my right to be feisty and non-compliant when I think it serves my best interests. I will not be arbitrarily obstructionist. But I will not comply just to avoid a fight or to get something done quickly.
The purpose to being feisty and non-compliant is to make sure we do what is best for everyone. I expect you to hold me to the same standards. Please be feisty and non-compliant with me so I don't get you to do something you'd rather not do. Only if we are feisty and non-compliant together can we get the results that are best for all of us.